But it's par for the course in the sunny suburban sprawl of San Jose and the surrounding Bay Area cities, home to technology giants like Facebook, Google and Cisco, where college-educated single men outnumber women.
A But behind the statistics lies a very different story.
Making a true connection takes time, dedication, openness, social skills and perhaps a bit of luck, no matter how many statistics tell us where the best city to find a spouse is.
So regardless if you’re mediocre or attractive, men here won’t try as hard to impress you.
That or they just don’t have the capability to hold a great conversation to keep you interested. It is true that often I am the only girl at a company amongst 50 guys and you are right that is kind of a unique situation. However, it always seems to be a point of interest at first.
But at Nola, a Creole-themed bar with notoriously bad service, Erika, 25, wasn't having much luck meeting single guys."I ordered my drink, and my girlfriend and I threw out glances and smiles to many men we were interested in.
However, none of the maybe 30 men surrounding us were eager to start a conversation," Erika, who lives in nearby San Jose, told men, such a scene would be wholly unfamiliar.
Casey, 23, hypothesized that the gender imbalance is to blame for this behavior: With fewer women around, competition increases, resulting in a higher-than-average proportion of hyper-determined, sexually frustrated men on the prowl."When I go out for the night, there's a pretty high chance that I'm going to get hit on, which is nice, but a lot of times guys can be overly persistent," Casey told But the main reason why Silicon Valley is far from a bachelorette's paradise has nothing to do with the gender ratio.