Reply I married a Domincan because of the first and second reasons on the list: he was the only one who offered me “unconditional friendship” before it evolved into love, and I never did things the easy way anyhow. I am Italian American and only learned the surface aspects of the culture, such as food. Later back in the States, wish I could remember all the funny things my husband said. He pointed to the growing pile of scrap paper and said, “You are creating a fire hydrant! For my son and I it was like having our own secret language.
Now that I have learned Spanish on my own, I find Italian much easier to read and speak and St. My first day in Taiwan (I speak Chinese also but at first rather imperfectly) I tried to tell my in-laws cook I wanted scrambled eggs. ” I was so glad for my kids to grow up eating Chinese food because I’d always been a picky eater and did NOT want any child to grow up to be like me. Where my kids grew up in the 70s there were no Chinese around, so–no one to understand us. You are the first person to validate intercultural marriage in a professional situation (or at least the first one I’ve seen).
I still can’t cook a steak properly, and he still doesn’t get the concept of eating rice with the little side dish at the same time, instead of separately!
🙂 Also, to quote Daina, with a slight modification: dating him has “…taught me that I’m Asian in ways I didn’t even realize.” So true! And that’s another nice thing–that intermixing–it helps the following generation too. My youngest granddaughter has blond hair and lovely golden skin. It is nice to be able to argue in front of other people without any of them understanding you, isn’t it?
(I’m fluent in Chinese.) 4) When we went to Hawaii on our honeymoon, I got him to dress up in all sorts of loud Hawaiian prints…and on him, what that great skin, he actually looked cool! So many more ways to say I love you/Te Quiero/T’estimo. It has taken me a longer time to be accepted as multiculturally competent than if I had been born into another culture.
(The cloth diapering decision was super easy for us, too!Reply I didn’t marry a man from another country, but I did marry one whose family is intractably Republican. I converted him in the end, but we still have to have holidays with Republicans! You should write one titled “10 Reasons Why You Should Marry a Republican (Like I Did)”! Knowing you, it would be hilarious, full of tongue-in-cheek witticisms and so much more. then you could have had both the foreigner elements AND the Republican elements – oh yea baby, bring it on! Being married to a republican would DEFINITELY be more difficult than being married to my Chinese husband. I’m currently not speaking to one of my husband’s nephews who is a far right wing idiot who just can’t keep his mouth shut.😉 Reply I think if I were married to a republican I would go insane or want to leave him. I used to really care for him but he really pushed me TOO FAR!!! although we are both native English speakers the cultural differences between Americans and Brits is vast! Multilingual Living is the place where she shares her knowledge about raising multilingual and multicultural children. I finally have an excuse to indulge in that high quality chocolate (the kind that melts in your mouth like nothing else in the world) that he can’t live without! Especially after our children arrived, things got really challenging (and it wasn’t the decision of whether to use cloth or disposable – that decision was the easiest: ! Corey Heller is the founder of Multilingual Living and the Editor-In-Chief/Publisher of Multilingual Living Magazine.But in time we did become fascinated with one another’s cultures (even if not always for good reasons).