But according to Millie, all of this unearned praise and attention can present problems in relationships.“When you’re a model, or just extremely good-looking, people are constantly telling you that you’re beautiful, but those people usually want something from you,” she told me.However, he was bald and a little shorter than me, and ultimately just not that hot.It never bothered me when we were alone, but as things got more serious, I began to feel nervous about introducing him to my friends.Or, more simply, have we just realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it's cracked up to be?
I told him that, at 31, the realization was probably a bit overdue, but I knew what he meant: As one gets older, it becomes harder and harder to be attracted to someone simply because of the way they look.
“It wasn’t that I was specifically attracted to ,” Millie clarified recently.
“It just so happened that, about five or six years ago, what was fashionable in terms of male models were thin, tattooed punk boys who looked like they’d just been plucked from a skate park, and It’s true: It’s human nature to want to kiss and touch and penetrate beautiful people.
The attraction felt almost indefinable, relying on everything from their looks and style to their mind and profession, to the smell of their skin and the sound of their voice.
Deep attraction is, of course, a multisensory experience.
I hated myself for having such superficial impulses, but I couldn’t help it: I want to be able to show my partners off to the world for both what they do how they look. In the past, when a friend has introduced me to a new partner who’s superhot, but clearly an idiot, I’ve judged them for it.